You’ve had a lovely evening and venture into the bedroom… things are getting hot and heavy and she takes off her clothes. You take off yours, you kiss her neck and she moans in delight. Her hands caress your body and it feels delicious but you just can’t shake the feeling of unease. She moves around and tries something a little different but you sense that her frustration is building… You kiss and tease for a little longer but anxiety takes over. She begins to look uncomfortable and you start to get embarrassed.
Unfortunately, your penis isn’t working. It just won’t get hard. From a woman’s point of view it’s disappointing (I’m not going to lie to you) and nothing kills the mood quicker than a woman wondering what she is doing wrong. From a man’s point of view, it’s embarrassing and sometimes humiliating, but… IT’S NOT THE END OF THE WORLD.
You can save this situation, here’s how!
Firstly, take full control of the situation. If you have a well-stocked drawer of toys and sex aids pull out a blindfold or even a tie. Cover her eyes and lie her down on the bed so she is completely at your mercy. The removal of one of the senses heightens all others and adds to the excitement.
Kiss your lady from head to toe, tell her how sexy she is and how much she turns you on. Help her to relax and reassure her that she is incredibly sexy without making an issue of the problem. That can be discussed later if necessary. If impotence is a regular issue you must speak to the Doctor but sometimes it’s just one of those things – make the best of it.
Focus on all of her erogenous zones until you get to the all-important task of oral sex or cunnilingus as it’s also known. Tease her with your hands whilst you lick and suck her into seventh heaven.
If she does enjoy penetration, all is not lost! Try a smooth vibrator like the Rocks Off 160 mm 10 Speed Bullet Vibrator and use the 10 speeds of vibration to penetrate, tease and titillate whilst you perform oral sex. Vibrators are perfect for adding a new dimension to couples play so why not make the most of their existence.
Take cues from her body language and make sure you pay attention to what she likes. I like the Rocks Off 160mm Bullet Vibe because it’s inexpensive, powerful and discreet. With 10 speeds to choose from I find it incredibly versatile and the rounded tip is perfect for applying direct pressure when required. Try a flavoured lubricant to increase sensitivity and pleasure, I like Give Lube Cheeky Cherry Oral Pleasure Gel. It combines a high quality lubricant with a delicious cherry flavour and an excellent price.
If you feel yourself getting a little tired around the jaw, try a finger vibrator. This sits on the tip of your finger and uses a bumps and different surfaces to stimulate the clitoris. The result, amazing pleasure!
Once your lover has experienced a mind blowing orgasm, the earlier difficulties will all be forgotten. You’ve taken control of the situation and you’ve both enjoyed an amazing experience. For me, there is nothing sexier than a resourceful lover.
These things do happen and it’s not the end of the world. But when it does, make sure the night is still an unforgettable experience.
Just wait till it’s her turn to reciprocate….