Introducing Sex Toys into the Bedroom
Introducing sex toys into the bedroom for the first time can be a tricky subject to approach for sex toy beginners. From my experience, there are three reactions ‘HELL YES’, ‘HELL NO!’ or ‘IM NOT SURE IF SEX TOYS ARE FOR ME’.
If like me, you’re a Hell Yes girl but you aren’t sure how your lover will react, a great starting point to bringing sex toys into the bedroom is to begin talking about sex toys. Yes, it’s sounds obvious but for those who are a little shy, introducing sex toys into the bedroom is a lot harder than you think.
Broach the subject of sex toys
As easy way to broach the subject of introducing sex toys into the bedroom is to read an article about a product and point out something topical in the text. ‘Oh look, this prostate massager promises you make you cum strawberry milkshake. Perhaps it will bring more boys to the yard?’ Starting a conversation will help to gauge your partner’s reaction to sex toys and opens the door for a discussion.
Never blindside your lover with a sex toy
Imagine it, you’re in the throes of passion and your partner brings out the Anal Blaster 9000 and prepares to ram it straight into your rectum. You’ve never seen a sex toy before and in a blind panic, you leap from the nearest window, completely naked, and head screaming into the closest taxi rank.
Much to the horror of any passers-by….
Never blindside your lover with a sex toy and always have a discussion first about the toys that you plan to introduce. That’s not to say you can’t pleasantly surprise someone, but wait till you discover the kind of sex toys they want to try first.
Relax and Have Fun with Sex Toys
For me, sex toys are about having fun. It’s normal to feel a little shy about introducing sex toys into the bedroom, but if you relax and chat easily about it. Introducing sex toys needn’t be a big issue.
My advice is to nip down to your local sex toy shop with your partner and slip into the back room where they have a huge collection of products to look at. Pick up the sex toys, see what they actually do and enjoy a cheeky giggle together whilst you play with the different items.
If that’s a little too public, try an online sex toy store instead. LoveHoney have demonstration videos for most of their sex toys now. Relax over a few drinks and take a look at the different products online. Most reputable sex toy companies use plain paper to package their products and will not contain their address on any visible part of the parcel.
Ask Outright about Sex Toys
‘I have a fisting machine in the cupboard, fancy getting it out?’ could be the best question ever for the right person, and you’ll never know if you don’t ask!
In all seriousness, sometimes you need to take the rabbit by the ears and just ask your partner if they want to try a sex toy. It’s the only way you’ll know for sure if they want to experiment with something different.
During sex, simply asking ‘Do you mind if I use my vibrator whilst you do that?’ often works well because it’s non-threatening and includes your partner. You can always hand the vibrator to your partner too, and ask them to take over once things heat up a little more.
Put on a Sex Show For Your Partner
One fool proof way for introducing sex toys into the bedroom is to put on a sizzling sex show for your partner. They just can’t help getting involved, and this particular tactic never fails!
Start off with a saucy strip tease and progress to masturbation. Gently reach out for a vibrator and start to tease and caress your body whilst your partner watches. As your partner becomes more excited, perform oral sex on them whilst you pleasure yourself with the vibrator.
After that, the ice is broken and the toy is introduced.
As you continue to experiment, a collection of products will build naturally.