Is Mid Life Sex Better Than Ever?
Mid life sex is a subject that isn’t often discussed. After all, aren’t the over 40’s too busy knitting and looking after grandchildren to think about having sex?
The answer is no. Absolutely not!
A lot of things change as we get older. However, that doesn’t mean that people stop having sex. A recent study from the Trinity College established that 59% of those over fifty have regular sex, with a third boasting that they enjoy a tangle between the sheets at least three times a week. Personally, I think that this is down to more people beginning new relationships as they get older. Those in their mid-years are also more health conscious, so they are fitter and healthier. Either way, this is great news for those who want to continuing enjoying an intimate relationship with their partners. However, even though Mid life sex pretty much the same for those in their 20’s, there are a few sexual health issues to bear in mind.
Mid life sex is much better than it was in your 20’s
Sexually active people in their mid life years’ report that sex is much better than it was in their 20’s because they are more experienced and have less hang-ups about their bodies. Furthermore, whether it’s because of a new relationship, no longer worrying about getting pregnant or having the house to yourself, your golden years are the perfect time for a sexual re awakening. Regular sex also helps blood flow to the vagina which keeps it nicely toned and healthy.
Mid life sex has changed over the years
The 1970’s saw changes in the way that people enjoyed sex. The sexual revolution saw ‘knocking boots’ becoming normalised in Alexander Comforts book The Joy of Sex, and young people began enjoying a new-found sexual freedom. However, for many people coming out of long term relationships in the 2000’s, it’s worth mentioning that sexual landscapes have changed.
Sexually transmitted infections amongst the over 50’s is at an all-time high. The reason for this increase in STI’s may be down to a lack of education about safe sex methods and an increase in older generations using online dating sites. It may be tempting to believe that STI’s are an issue that only affects young people, but this really isn’t the case. Using condoms are the most effective way to protect you from sexually transmitted infections, but they are not 100% effective. Remember to book regular sexual health screenings at your local genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic to ensure that you stay in optimum health. For those who believe that they may have contracted an STI and require screening, many GUM clinics have a confidential walk in service. To find your nearest sexual health clinic, enter your postcode into the NHS Choices website.
Mid life sex needn’t be hampered by menopause.
The menopause is a tricky time for women in their golden years because it comes with many side effects which can affect sexual desire. One of the most talked about issues that arise after menopause is vaginal dryness and painful intercourse. However, avoiding perfumed products and investing in a water-based lubricant or vaginal moisturiser can help to discreetly combat vaginal dryness. If the dryness persists, talk to your GP about the other options available to you.
Mid life sex can be improved using sex toys
Another method of boosting sexual desire when you are ‘of a certain age’ involves a very simple mix of creativity and variety. One of my readers contacted me to discuss possible options for a couple who were struggling with sex as they got older. Although her partner experienced desire, he suffered from weak erections due to medication. She wanted to know if a cock ring would help, but with his inability to maintain an erection at all in some instances, a cock ring wouldn’t always be a suitable option. However, with some determined research I was able to find a great product that can help to stimulate both partners when one is suffering from erectile dysfunction.
The Pulse III Duo from Hot Octopuss is the newest version of the award winning Pulse series. For those who haven’t heard of the Pulse III Duo, this innovative couples sex toy comprises of a pulsating unit that strokes the penis using powerful oscillating plates. Because the Pulse III Duo can be used on a flaccid penis, it is one of the few mainstream sex toys that can stimulate a penis to climax without requiring an erection. If that isn’t good enough, this remote controlled couples’ pleaser can be worn during sex to stimulates a female partner too. That way, both partners can still enjoy the intimacy of sex but without the need for an erection.
I recommend trying this product with the female partner on top, or during missionary to create a delicious grinding sensation against the clitoris. Because it doesn’t enter the body, Pulse III is an ideal choice for females suffering from painful intercourse after menopause.
For those interested in purchasing the Hot Octopuss Pulse III Duo, it is available from the Hot Octopuss website for just £119.00.
Mid life sex is one of the best ways to keep your body healthy
Studies have shown that mid life sex can help to improve heart health, lower blood pressure and release the feel-good hormones endorphins, which act as a natural painkiller. Studies have also found that middle-aged people who have regular sex look on average five to seven years younger than those who rarely have sex. However, for those who suffer from tiredness or stress, sexual desire is one of the first thigs that you lose. Making sure that you get plenty of sleep and looking after your overall health doesn’t just boost libido, but you’ll look and feel sexier too.
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